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No one has been in exactly your situation, but there are some basic principles that can fix any relationship.

Here are the keys that you will need to put into practice:
1. Forgive completely every offense and wound from the past. And let go of
any and all bitterness and anger and disappointment.
2. Stop trying to control the situation, and give up trying to change those
around you. Do not, under any circumstance, speak a negative word against
them. If correction is necessary (with the children) make sure it is
instruction rather than criticism. (Be sure NOT to correct your spouse.)
3. Begin again to cherish each individual from your heart. Find things
about them that you truly love and enjoy and begin to let them know how
valuable they are to you just the way they are.
4. Do not pray prayers of correction over your family members. Begin to
thank God for them as you take them again to your heart. Do not focus in
prayer or in life on what's wrong but rather on what's right. And really
and truly put God first. Seek to know Him in prayer and in the Word instead
of trying to get Him to change things.
5. Remember that no one can resist the power of love, but they will resist
and rebel will their entire beings the power of rejection, judgment and
criticism.

That was extremely helpful to hear again!! Nannette

Thank you so much for these principles. I will use them for myself and also pass them on to other members of my family who are in need of this very bible basics. My family has been in strife over broken relationships between the Christian members of us and I so want to see restoration happening. God Bless you. Busy Bee

Thank you so much for this post. I really needed to read this. My fiance broke up with me last week and I have been devasted. We both said from the very start that God had a hand in us meeting and becoming friends as we met on a website. I have been praying to the Lord to restore our relationship.Now I realise that I just need to put it into His hands and His will and He will heal if it is His will not mine. Praise be to the Lord from whom all blessings flow. He blessed us with this relationship and I am trusting that He will continue to work on us together even tho we are apart!!

I believe if The Lord want's a relationship restored, it will be done. But, sometimes there is a waiting period so He can teach us how to keep what He is giving to us. You may not see this now, but somewhere down the road in your future, you will understand why He stepped in and removed your fiance for a time...

If you ask the Lord for anything in faith, it is done. Sometimes, that means we have to alter or change some things in ourselves, and sometimes it means He needs to teach us some things so not to lose the gift He is bringing to us. This could be a time or a season that you are meant to spend with the Lord so He can teach you what this persons need's are, and how not to get caught up in the relationship in the wrong way. He wants to always bless us, especially where love is concerned. So, just try and lift up this person to Him, and listen to your spirit as He teaches you through this experience. I bet you will see shortly what you are to learn from this loss.

It's like asking the Lord for a financial blessing. If He say's yes, that doesn't mean it will be automatic. He has to prepare you to receive the money so you don't spend it friviously and have nothing left in a year's time. He wants to teach you how to spend your blessing responsibily. Just because it doesn't come to you the next day doesn't mean He is not going to give it to you. It just mean's there is a waiting period for you to learn how to manage it so you can have that money bless you and other's for many, many years to come~

Many blessings,
~deepinhim

This really blessed me, a lot of it the Lord has been dealing with me about already for my marriage. I was humbled to read it all just spelled out plain as day. What is written here is truly what restores relationships, my marriage has been rocky for awhile now, and the Lord has taught me these very things and currently my marriage is on the mend. Its not fully there yet, but my goodness its so much better then it used to be. These are the exact things the Holy Spirit revealed to me that I needed to do. I was so happy to see it all here, it reminded me of all the things I am doing automatically now, that seemed so difficult in the beginning.

I will be praying for the peoples in this forums relationships, and I ask that if anyone here thinks of me and my marriage that they will pray for me also. God bless us all in our relationships.

RoseOfSharon

[quote="deepinhim"]I believe if The Lord want's a relationship restored, it will be done. But, sometimes there is a waiting period so He can teach us how to keep what He is giving to us. You may not see this now, but somewhere down the road in your future, you will understand why He stepped in and removed your fiance for a time...

If you ask the Lord for anything in faith, it is done. Sometimes, that means we have to alter or change some things in ourselves, and sometimes it means He needs to teach us some things so not to lose the gift He is bringing to us. This could be a time or a season that you are meant to spend with the Lord so He can teach you what this persons need's are, and how not to get caught up in the relationship in the wrong way. He wants to always bless us, especially where love is concerned. So, just try and lift up this person to Him, and listen to your spirit as He teaches you through this experience. I bet you will see shortly what you are to learn from this loss.

It's like asking the Lord for a financial blessing. If He say's yes, that doesn't mean it will be automatic. He has to prepare you to receive the money so you don't spend it friviously and have nothing left in a year's time. He wants to teach you how to spend your blessing responsibily. Just because it doesn't come to you the next day doesn't mean He is not going to give it to you. It just mean's there is a waiting period for you to learn how to manage it so you can have that money bless you and other's for many, many years to come~

Many blessings,
~deepinhim[/quote]


Thank you so much. I never thought of it that way. You gave great insight into having to have a waiting period. I didn't know what to do except pray and ask for God's will. I didn't want to give up on it, but if that is what God's will is for my life I will. I just keep on trusting in the Lord that everything will be revealed in His time not mine. Your words were an inspiration I needed to hear.

God bless,

Thank you so much for sharing that. I'm just now learning about "relationship" and the importance in watching how we speak to one another and treat one another. I will apply these lessons to my own life and home. Be Blessed

Well I just heard from him and he has already moved on in his life. He has a new relationship and he doesn't want hear from me again. I can accept that and move on. I am trusting in God alone and He alone will sustain me. He obviously didn't share the depth of love I felt for him if he is able to delete those feelings in 1 1/2 weeks. I just pray that the Lord will teach him what true love really is. I will continue to pray for himand wish him well in life. I must forgive and forget and move forward with God as my strenghth.

Take care and God bless,

choosingfaith

Thank you so much for these principals. I found #4 especially enlightening. God has done some miraculous restorative work in my family just recently and I can see how these principals interplayed. We still have a way to go so I am taking these principals to heart. Since the recent death of my father, I want more than ever to play a healing role in our Heavenly Father's restoration process within my family,

Love,
Wendie